Lesson from Juzz 2
How should we Muslims deal with suffering and grief? (PATIENCE)
How should we Muslims deal with suffering and grief? How should we comfort a friend or relative who is in distress?
“O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.”
‘Sabr’ means having patience. But it doesn’t indicate ‘inactivity’ / ‘not doing anything’
Old arabs used to use the work ‘Sabr’ in which they didn’t show any weaknesses.
One of the Pet Hatim At Tayee wrote a poem: “We did ‘Sabe’ against them by holding the swords, within the pains and struggle, until they became quiet and stopped.
Another Arab Poet Juhair Ibn Abi Sulma said –
“While riding on the strong horses, the Kings showed Patience at the war field when all others lost their hopes”.
We get the meaning of Sabr from Quran as follows:
- To accept the Incidents of our lives that cannot be explained using our limited knowledge
- To do the tasks that will make Allah happy (Kahaf: 67)
- Stay away from the tasks that will make Allah unhappy (Hud: 11)
- To rely on Allah (Imran: 125)
- Stay patient against People’s ridicule, bad remarks, tease, bully (Ibrahim: 12)
- When people are against the truth, still standing with the truthfulness and to keep continuation of speaking the truthfulness (kaf: 39)
- Patiently endure the torture due to following Islam, even not to leave Imaan even if there is a danger of death (anam: 34)
- When the oppressed forgives the oppressor .. its nothing but ‘patience’ (araf: 126)
- Not to make hurry for the result. Wait until Allah’s decision comes in. (kalam: 48)
- Wait for the right time (hujrat 5)
- To stay firm and steady against the unfavourable / bad situation (Baqara 250)
Three things to consider while having ‘Patience’:
- To face and endure pain and sufferings while having the patience
- While struggling to change the condition, Don’t do SIN
- While having patience, DON’T GO AWAY FROM ALLAH’S OBEDIENCE
Your son has 39 degree temperature. You should pour water on his head. But if you do not do so, only stay at prayer matt and ask help from Allah, this is not what is meant by the ‘patience’
You have to give the best treatment to your son and at the same time ask to Allah help in Salah On & On .
You’re struggling to look for a job / business / opportunity. ….so you have to struggle the best and then completely reply on Allah by asking Dua/help in Salah.
Allah subhanallahu ta’ala then reminds us:
“Be sure We shall test you with something of fear and hunger; some loss in goods or lives or the fruits (of your toil) but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere. Who say when afflicted with calamity:
“Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhir raji-oon”
“To Allah we belong and to Him is our return.”
They are those on whom (descend) blessings from Allah and Mercy and they are the ones that receive guidance.”
From these verses we can see that in a Muslim’s life, hardship and suffering should never come as a complete surprise. In fact, Allah promises us some hardship as a certainty, somewhere during our lifetime. It is a test of our iman, our faith in Allah, and we should not despair, because there are lessons to be learnt from every situation, especially from misfortune.
Let us consider Nabi Ayyub’s example, which appears in Sura Al- Anbiyya_h, v. 83 and 84:
“And (remember) Ayyub when he cried to his Lord “Truly distress has seized me but You are the Most Merciful of those that are merciful.”
So We listened to him: We removed the distress that was on him and
We restored his people to him and doubled their number as a Grace from Ourselves and a thing for commemoration for all who serve Us”
To a Believer, good fortune and misfortune are merely two sides of the same coin of life. Although we do not welcome hardship, we know that even in the noonday of life, we live in the shadow of death; in the peak of our prosperity, we are just a few short paces away from poverty and in the prime of our good health, illness lurks in the shadows nearby.
Suhaib reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
عَجَبًا لِأَمْرِ الْمُؤْمِنِ إِنَّ أَمْرَهُ كُلَّهُ خَيْرٌ وَلَيْسَ ذَاكَ لِأَحَدٍ إِلَّا لِلْمُؤْمِنِ إِنْ أَصَابَتْهُ سَرَّاءُ شَكَرَ فَكَانَ خَيْرًا لَهُ وَإِنْ أَصَابَتْهُ ضَرَّاءُ صَبَرَ فَكَانَ خَيْرًا لَهُ
Strange is the affair of the believer for there is good for him in every matter and this is not the case with anyone except the believer. If he is happy, then he thanks Allah and thus there is good for him, and if he is harmed, then he shows patience and thus there is good for him.
Source: Sahih Muslim 2999, Grade: Sahih
Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
عَجِبْتُ لِلْمُؤْمِنِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يَقْضِي لِلْمُؤْمِنِ قَضَاءً إِلَّا كَانَ خَيْرًا لَهُ
I am amazed by the believer. Verily, Allah does not decree anything for the believer except what is good for him.
Source: Musnad Ahmad 12495, Grade: Hasan
So why should we (the believers) worry at anything fortune / misfortune in life?
A hadith narrated by Abu ‘Abbas ‘Abdullah, says:
“Remember Allah in times of ease, and He will recognise you in times of distress. What hit you could not have missed you, what missed you could not have hit you. Remember that victory comes with patience, relief comes with affliction and ease comes with hardship”.
THREE PROPHETIC DUAS TO PROTECT YOUR FAMILY FROM BAD DISEASE:
- The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever recites it three times in the morning will not be afflicted by any calamity before evening, and whoever recites it three times in the evening will not be overtaken by any calamity before morning :
In the Name of Allah, Who with His Name nothing can cause harm in the earth nor in the heavens, and He is the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing.”
(Abu Dawud 4/323, At-Tirmithi 5/465, Ibn Majah 2/332, Ahmad. Ibn Majah’s chain of transmission is good (Hasan), Ibn Baz, p. 39.)
- The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “O Allah, I seek refuge in you from evil character traits, evil deeds, and evil desires and evil diseases.”
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 3591
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani
- The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said,
Oh Allah, I seek refuge in you from leprosy, madness, elephantiasis, and Unknown / evil diseases
(Abu Dawood 1554, Book 8)